by James Walsh

Parenting a child is not an easy task which involves a lot of sacrifices. Nurturing a child should not be considered in the lighter sense; care must be taken when looking after a child. It largely depends on the successful married life of their parents that alone could form the strong and steady foundation. Many studies conducted by various organisations have revealed that divorce harms the children emotionally as well as destroys the well-being of the children. It has a greater impact on the children.

It is very much difficult to see a child being nurtured without either of the parent. Enjoying the warmth of both the parents is highly essential and actually it should have been their birthright. Though the single parent shows extreme care, love and affection to the core on the child, still it is impossible to narrow the gap with the other parent. A wife may find another suitable husband and can also feel comfortable and vice versa, but a child will definitely find it difficult to cope with the stepfatherly or motherly attitude which often would be the result of the divorce of their original parents.

In 2004, children belonging to 28 per cent of the British families had single parent and around 25 per cent of children in the UK lived with single parents. There was a drastic increase by three times in the statistics since 1972. In the suburbs of London, more than 40 percent of the families have single parent which is two times more than the average of the UK. The trend shows clearly that the number is on the rise.

When a person decides to divorce and if he or she has a child, it is natural to think of the problems that may arise due to single parenting. They could also have seen other persons who struggle hard to take care of their children without the help of the other parent. So, while taking these kinds of emotional decisions about the life events, both the individuals should think of the ways and try to overcome the challenges put forth by single parenting, so that the marriage might be saved at least as an upshot of the single parenting miseries.

The children of the divorced couples also face various other problems such as depression, earlier pregnancies and difficulties in coping with the school activities. It is also a well known fact that the children belonging to the single parent families are more associated with the criminal activities and those households’ children are accounted for more than 70 percent of teenage murders. They are indulging in various severe crimes and also committing more rapes; these children are eleven times more violent than other ordinary children. The main reasons for these shortcomings are that they are not supervised and monitored properly. The resulting consequences will be even higher when especially the family hails from poor background. This is because the existing single parent most of the times struggles for money and cannot allot enough time for looking after the child.

The research findings also show that the students from single parent families have very poor concentration on studies and have highly disfavoured school ambience. Their performance is also very poor or worse when compared to the children who have both the parents.

The children will find it very difficult to deal with the changes that would occur at the time of their parent’s separation. As they are very young, consistency is highly important in the relationships they had and when it goes missing the resulting trauma would be very difficult to handle. The child would mourn the loss of the family and the love from both the parents. It might result in mood swings, behavioural change, unnecessary anger and other abnormal activities.

As a result of uncoupling of the couples, the children end up with facing a number of potentially life-altering transitions. These children would be forced to lead a life in entirely different family norms or situations. However, the most common sympathetic fact is that they live with their mothers often and have less relationship with their beloved fathers.

It is for the aforesaid reasons, single parenting poses a great threat to those couples who prefer getting a divorce.

James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. For more information about getting a Divorce see http://www.quickie-divorce.com/divorce-option2.html

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